Road To Connection

Ep.5 How To End Your Adult Loneliness with William Gan

William Gan joins me for episode #5 of the All You Can Friend podcast.
 
🎤We discuss
Will realising as an adult that he had been lonely most of his life
Navigating social opportunities
Building successful friendships
Making friends in new places
How to heal personal wounds and the power of doing so
Relational techniques to deepen connection
Find William here -- https://www.instagram.com/william.mindbody/
 
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0:00 -- Intro
01:30 -- The experience of loneliness aged 10 to 23
03:10 -- Finding the question of connection and community
04:05 -- Noticing one's loneliness
06:25 -- Connection in corporate life
10:05 -- Taking opportunities
11:30 -- Social fear (rejection, perfectionism)
13:20 -- Are connections transactions?
15:00 -- Pillars of a relationship
18:30 -- The Big Turning Point
19:50 -- First time full presence
21:30 -- Simmo's friendship trajectory
23:40 -- How to coliving
26:45 -- Overcoming loneliness as a nomad
33:00 -- How to choose the right events
36:05 -- How to have social energy
39:50 -- Navigating social discomfort
43:50 -- Healing the inner wounds
45:00 -- Compassion
47:00 -- Curiosity as the key
49:25 -- Staying one place Vs nomading
52:00 -- Events for connection
53:55 -- Retreats are maximally connective
55:45 -- Friends lead to more friends
57:45 -- Scales of community, friendship, connection
1:03:40 -- The practice & the hunt of busy events\
1:06:20 -- Putting yourself out there more
1:07:25 -- Using Relational practices IRL is tough!
1:09:25 -- Reflecting and share impact
1:14:15 -- Advice for finding connection
1:17:30 -- Where to find William
 
🤝Let's Connect!😁
https://www.instagram.com/MrSimmoSimpson/
https://twitter.com/MrSimmoSimpson
 
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Unlock the friend zone: find your social powers and start making more epic friendships today! #loneliness #friendship #community
 
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Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/avbe/night-in-kyoto License code: 0REDUMYNWRV5HTAD

Ep.4 Make Better Connections: Projection & Transformation with Alex Case

Alex Case joins me for episode #4 of the All You Can Friend podcast
We discuss how to ask for - and get - what you want in connection with others; conscious dance as a practice for attunement to others, fear, projection and connection; the role of analysis, truth, curiosity and intuition in connection; how a single night can unlocked previously unknown levels of self-understanding; the power of literature in self-transformation; methods to cultivate empathy for deeper connection; working to have less projections; the evolution of Alex and Simmo's near-10 year friendship
Find Alex here -- https://www.facebook.com/alex.case.948
 
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0:00 — Highlights / teasers
5:57 — What’s Alex up to?
8:53 — Learning dance: a route to personal transformation
17:24 — Analytical Brain Vs Intuition, and processing projection
28:10 — How Alex attuned intuition around others and the impact on his wider life
33:20 — Alex’s sudden life shift 10 years ago
38:15 — On not crying for years
41:28 — Process-Oriented Psychology
47:50 — Alex’s first experience of Deep Empathy
55:26 — Big life breakthrough near death experience
58:50 — Dark night transformation into self understanding
1:07:13 — Integration of transformative experience
1:13:20 — The Evolution of Alex & Simmo’s 9+ year friendship
1:17:08 — Curiosity Vs Persuasion
1:25:53 — Making friends overseas
1:29:25 — Social Anxiety Vs Boldness
1:31:33 — Asking for the connection you want
1:35:30 — Boundaries & desire for connection
1:41:08 — Info and wrap up
1:44:56 — Noticing what IS, NOW: get outta your head
 
🤝Let's Connect!😁
https://www.instagram.com/MrSimmoSimpson/
https://www.instagram.com/roadtoconnection/
https://twitter.com/MrSimmoSimpson
 
🔗Links🔗
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5Rhythms — https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/5Rhythms
Process-Oriented Psychology — https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Process-oriented_psychology
Norwegian Wood — https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11297.Norwegian_Wood
 
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Unlock the friend zone: find your social powers and start making more epic friendships today! #loneliness #friendship #community
 
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Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/avbe/night-in-kyoto License code: 0REDUMYNWRV5HTAD

Ep.3 How To Find Your Community & Navigate Social Challenges: With Karl Steyaert

Karl Steyaert joins me for episode #3 The All You Can Friend podcast.
We discuss options and strategies for finding community, connection and belonging; tools and approaches for navigating conflict and differences within community and in the world more broadly; cultivating our own growth for healthier connections and more impact in the world; getting nourishment of our needs from social connection; what to do if you feel socially anxious.
Find Karl here: ✤ karl@karlsteyaert.com ✤ www.karlsteyaert.com
 
⏲TIMESTAMPS
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0:00 — Some highlights
2:29 — Intro to Karl and his work
🌟Finding Community🌟
5:59 — Searching for belonging
9:56 — Early inspiration for creating community
14:01 — Community governance
14:34 — How to find community
17:15 — Cohousing Vs shared housing
19:43 — Types of shared living (shared, coliving, co-op, egalitarian)
21:11 — Egalitarian income sharing communities
28:53 — How to test living in community short-term
32:03 — Building community where you are
34:50 — Basic strategies for finding connection and community locally
🌟Navigating Interpersonal Connection In And Out Of Community🌟
44:53 — Navigating conflict and sexual boundary crossing
47:33 — Tools and approaches to successfully navigate conflict
54:14 — Tools and frameworks in our current living environment
59:33 — How can we work together for a better world across differences of belief?
1:07:24 — What results from doing inner and interpersonal work
1:09:41 — Byron Katie Vs other approaches
1:12:53 — ““How can we see the gift in whatever is happening…”
1:15:48 — Cultivate ourselves individually to have the connection and impact we want in the world
1:16:43 — Using communities of practice for personal growth
1:19:49 — How being part of a group supports our basic needs
1:20:51 — Pods for regular emotional and relational development support
1:22:37 — How to get more interpersonal nourishment
1:25:10 — Advice for people feeling socially anxious
1:28:13 — Remaining connected to self while reaching outwards
1:29:58 — Where to find Karl and his offers
 
🤝Let's Connect!😁
https://www.instagram.com/MrSimmoSimpson/
https://twitter.com/MrSimmoSimpson
 
🔗Links🔗
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Foundation for Intentional Community — https://www.ic.org/
Global Ecovillage Network — https://ecovillage.org/
Cohousing Association for North America — https://www.cohousing.org/
 
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Unlock the friend zone: find your social powers and start making more epic friendships today!
 
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Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/avbe/night-in-kyoto License code: 0REDUMYNWRV5HTAD

Ep.2 Leaving Mormonism And Finding New Community As A Parent: With Trish Layton

Trish Layton joins me for episode #2 the Road to Connection podcast.
We discuss her journey from Mormonism to pregnancy to leaving the church and travelling the world with her family while exploring world schooling.
 
⏲TIMESTAMPS
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0:00 — Some highlights
1:36 — Intro
1:58 — Moving back home
3:44 — Mormonism
7:11 — Leaving Mormonism
12:40 — Pregnancy and the logistics of coming out as no longer Mormon
16:49 — Disappointing parents
18:30 — Navigating relationship with parents
22:15 — Giving birth in the back of a car, autonomy and systems
29:50 — The most present experience of Trish’s life
30:30 — Experiences giving birth: autonomy Vs support systems
34:10 — Traveling the world with family and kids
36:40 — Community when traveling
39:27 — Worldschoolers (hubs, permanent centers, and pop-ups)
44:32 — Living with others & cultivating empathy and self understanding
50:37 — Burning Man: culture of freedom & boundaries; new perspectives
51:29 — 26 seconds of SILENT FREEZE until 51:55
59:00 — Sexuality: exploring post-Mormonism
1:03:42 — “Go first” mindset to finding connection
1:07:15 — Different communities for different needs
1:09:40 — Experience as the source of growth
 
🤝Let's Connect!😁
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https://www.youtube.com/@roadtoconnection
https://www.instagram.com/mrsimmosimpson/
https://twitter.com/MrSimmoSimpson 
 
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Worldschooling FB group with 5k+ members:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/trailblazingfamilies
 
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Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/avbe/night-in-kyoto License code: 0REDUMYNWRV5HTAD

Ep.1 Reconnecting With Mom: Social Confidence & Self Love: With Johnson Hsieh

Johnson Hsieh joins me for the first episode of the Road to Connection podcast.
We discuss his journey from childhood loneliness, to the tools he leveraged for personal and relational growth, to healing his relationship with his mother, to newfound social ease and confidence.
 
Find Johnson here:
✤ https://twitter.com/justavagrant_ 
✤ https://johnsonhs.medium.com/
 
⏲TIMESTAMPS
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0:00 — Some highlights
0:42 — Johnson’s best ever birthday gift
4:15 — Childhood
7:30 — Friendships with women
11:00 — How community meets needs
14:25 — Romance in community
17:37 — Relationship with Mother
21:01 — The groundwork
22:07 — IFS
25:55 — Self compassion for change
27:07 — NVC
31:43 — Authentic Relating
37:28 — Circling
43:30 — Circling/AR demo
50:40 — (Other things to discuss)
53:03 — Transforming relationship with parents
59:59 — Microsolidarity
1:09:09 — Wrap up
1:09:41 -- From self deprecation to stepping into power
 
🤝Let's Connect!😁
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https://www.youtube.com/@roadtoconnection
https://www.instagram.com/mrsimmosimpson/
https://twitter.com/MrSimmoSimpson
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Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
https://uppbeat.io/t/avbe/night-in-kyoto License code: 0REDUMYNWRV5HTAD